You have to come to terms with the fact that you may not be ready to make a change.
At least not without a mindset shift. Something I often hear clients say is that they "need to find the motivation" in order to plan ahead or eat better. This may involve preparing some food ahead of time or reducing restaurant eating.
But do you feel like doing everything you do? Like going to work, for example. Maybe you actually want to go to work on some days, but you do it on all days even when you don't feel like it. Even on those days when you'd rather relax in the sun or go grab a coffee and just hang out you still go because you want things that result from working. Most of the time that want is money so that you can have a place to live and food to eat. A majority of us obviously really want those things, or we wouldn’t commute or sit in a cubicle all day or go to boring meetings. Because of the personal importance of those wants you have it set in your mind that "have to" go to work.
But in reality you don't "have to" do anything. Everything we do is connected to what we WANT. You work late because you want a promotion or you want to feel successful or you want to get ahead and pay some bills or whatever it may be. You may not want to work late, but the other wants overpower that. So when it comes to weight loss, you want to lose weight because you want to play with your kids and set a good example for them or you want to feel more confident or you want to be more healthy. But your want to do all the other things that prevent you from losing weight are more powerful. Often people feel frustrated because they get stuck in this middle ground between wanting to lose weight and not wanting to make the sacrifices necessary to do so. However, as they say, in order to change you have to change.
Do you really want this? Are you willing to go through the tedium of making the changes? Are you willing to do so on a daily basis? If someone said, “lose weight or we’ll burn your house down” or something crazy, then you’d make it happen right? This is an unrealistic example, but what I am saying is it is 100% possible to lose weight, it is just a matter of wants and priorities. You want to keep your house! We must consistently do the little things we don’t really feel like doing simply because we want the result. Sometimes it just takes a mindset shift.
Doing what we don't feel like doing is what gets things done in life. It's time to make the move from thinking losing weight is going to be like a Rocky training montage full of swinging sledge hammers and motivating music and realize it's more like taking a shower or doing laundry. Each day you do the small mundane tasks, not because you feel like it or because you're motivated or even because you want to do that task. Do it because your want for the result is stronger than your want for inaction.